Posts Tagged ‘buying’

Making Mistakes

Wednesday, April 10th, 2013

If you can’t make a mistake, you can’t make anything. — Marva Collins

Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone

Tuesday, January 17th, 2012

Your current comfort zone might not be all that comfortable but it is familiar. How do you get outside it?

Do one thing different each day. It can be something simple like taking a different route to work, the store, to school—wherever you go daily. If you park in the same spot every day, try a different one. The next day change something else. Try a new cereal for breakfast or try a different place for lunch. If you pack a lunch or eat lunch at home choose something you’ve always wanted to try but still haven’t. If you usually eat lunch alone try eating with a friend occasionally.

Do you write in a journal? If not, why not start one? Each day write a sentence. When you feel ready expand to a second sentence and then another and keep adding to the number you write. Write your sentences about anything.

When you discipline yourself to think creatively about doing one thing differently each day you open up new possibilities.

Is there anything you’ve been mulling over? Why not take the next step in the process? Get more information, make a phone call, request information. Take an action.

Say for example, you want to buy a new camera. I mention a camera because I’ve had conversations with several women who have talked about how much they want to buy one but haven’t yet. I asked each of them why and they all said they’re afraid of choosing the wrong one. They also fear that even if they got the right one they wouldn’t be able to figure out how to use it.

So if you want to buy a new camera you could take these action steps:

1.) Go to an electronics store and view the selection.

2.) Find three brands your curious about.

3.) Investigate these brands. Ask the salesperson for information about each one. You might also check out each brand online or ask a trusted friend or relative what they think.

4.) Give yourself a deadline to make the purchase—a close deadline, preferably within 48 hours. It’s easy to talk ourselves out of buying something we want and have planned for.

5.) Once you’ve bought the camera practice using it over and over. If you have trouble understanding how to get started ask for help. Go back to the store for assistance or ask a technically savvy friend. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need. There are often classes or tutorials online. The camera will likely come with instructions and a website or number to call for assistance.

There is always a learning curve when trying new things. It may take a day, week, month, or more but if you stick with it you will gain new knowledge and feel great about yourself as well as the new skill.

When it comes to developing skills as they relate to new relationships it’s the same way. Some of us have been out of touch socially and so can’t expect to just jump into social situations like a pro. Start slowly as you would with learning any new skill. Circulate. The more you incorporate new people and situations into your life the easier it will be.

Be patient with you no matter what change you want to make in your life. Do something small each day to build up to the change. Set target dates. Scan the newspaper, internet, and local community resources. If you find yourself faltering or putting what you want on the back burner—start again. What you need and want is attainable with conscious effort.

Waiting

Monday, June 20th, 2011

I realized today how short life really is. It goes by in the blink of an eye…

If we wait too long to treat ourselves with love and compassion we may forget to do it altogether. No kidding, it happens.

I bought myself a mirror for my blank living room wall this past weekend. I’d been staring at that blank wall four years and decided it was time for a change; time to give that wall a focal point. I’d been waiting and thinking about the right thing and then decided I may never find the right thing and what the wall needed was something, anything; so I bought a mirror, hung it up and it looks great!

I tend to wait way too long to do simple things for myself. After I bought my first computer it took me three months to take it out of the box. Three months! I kept thinking… I’ve got to read the instructions and I want to understand all this new information… but really, I just wanted to savor every moment. I looked forward to taking each component out of its box and reading each instruction.  This wasn’t rocket science but I needed to feel that all conditions were right in my mind before I opened the boxes and set it up. .

I bought a pair of boots for myself a couple of years ago. I absolutely loved those boots yet it took me four months to actually wear them.  Every morning I’d see them in the closet and thought about wearing them but then would decide it wasn’t the right time or I didn’t have the right clothes or the weather conditions weren’t quite right…it was always something until one day I thought, if not now, when? So, I put them on, they fit like a glove, and I’ve been wearing them ever since.

I’m learning that it’s okay to treat myself well. Nothing bad is going to happen if I bring myself a little joy.  The sky won’t fall and all will be well but it’s been  a learning process for me to get past all the waiting. Maybe I love the anticipation… The most recent PC I bought was actually up and running the day it was delivered to the door although my son had quite a bit to do with that. He said, Mom come on, lets just set it up now and not wait. And he was right; why wait? No reason to deprive myself or him of something we could enjoy now instead of later.

As I said, I’m learning.

Treat Yourself

Monday, April 5th, 2010

Treat yourself to something great today. Something you haven’t done for yourself in a long time. Something you’ve thought about but have said no—not today, maybe another day. Today is the day you’ve been waiting for.

Relationships…and a Vacuum Cleaner

Saturday, October 31st, 2009

It all started mid- September. I had known for several months that my vacuum cleaner was reaching the end of its life cycle. It was to the point where it spewed out more than it sucked up.

My first thought of course, was to fix it. I drove to a small vacuum cleaner sales and repair shop I pass by daily. The lone sales/repairman was a big burly man with a slightly intimidating air. He told me up front it was likely to cost more to repair my vacuum than it was worth. He suggested I take a look at the new vacuums in the shop but the prices for the new ones were more than I wanted to spend. He then suggested a used one. I looked at the offerings and wasn’t too impressed. I kept thinking I’d be better off down at the local Wal-Mart where I’d bought my broken down one three years earlier but since I was already at this shop decided on a used bagless model with whirling action for $125. I was given a 30 day warranty; left my old vacuum there, and was on my way.

Once I got home I discovered that pulling the vacuum out from the trunk of the car wasn’t easy; it was heavy! If nothing else, this was going to be a much more cumbersome model than my old one. I took it in the house and started it up. The first few minutes weren’t bad; dirt was flying into the canister but then a minute later it didn’t seem to be picking up lint on an area rug even though the vacuum’s green light signaled it was clean. I thought okay, I’ll just adjust the carpet level setting. After that the vacuum didn’t pick up anything at all! With vacuuming done for the day, I took a stab at removing dirt from the canister. It was a much messier job than I anticipated and at that moment really wished I had my broken down vacuum back. My first vacuuming session with my used/new to me model left me more than a little disappointed.

The next weekend I was back at the store, vacuum cleaner in hand. At this point I should have been asking for my money back but didn’t. Instead, much like with a bad relationship, despite the red flags, I was determined this vacuum and I would make it work. The same salesman who sold it to me was there and looked it over. After his inspection he informed me of my problem: I had changed the carpet level setting when the vacuum was upright instead of reclining it first. He made the necessary repairs and I left.

At home I again noticed the heaviness of this vacuum while lifting it out of the car trunk. Never-the-less, I brought it in the house and started it up. Once more it started out okay but within minutes I noticed this vacuum’s whirling action failed to deliver. I came up with next to nothing when I emptied the dirt canister. I did a better job on my own, down on the floor, picking up tiny pieces of lint, crumbs etc.

Since I do a little more with my free time than go to the vacuum repair shop, two weekends passed before I made it back in. The same salesman looked a bit defensive when he saw me walk through the door. I described my latest trial with my suckless vacuum. He unscrewed the bottom plate and said, “Well there’s your problem; the belt fell off.” I told him I didn’t want the vacuum cleaner and wanted my money back instead. He told me it was too late to get my money because it was past the 30 day warranty period and that he could sell me another one. I said, “No.” As I watched him fasten the bottom plate onto the vacuum I knew I wanted my relationship with him and this unfortunate piece of equipment to be over. (more…)