Posts Tagged ‘boyfriend’

Give Yourself Grace

Wednesday, July 16th, 2014

When you show a smile though inside you cry–

Give yourself grace

When your bank accounts low and your bills are high–

Give yourself grace

When dinner is late and the kids are crying–

Give yourself grace

When your mate is brooding and he thinks it’s your fault–

Give yourself grace

We give to others without batting an eye

We fear if we don’t we’ll be left high and dry

When we don’t give ourselves the gift of our grace

We’ll feel completely worn out by the end of the day

Life isn’t easy so don’t beat yourself up

Because when you do it’s a sign you’re giving up–on YOU!

You’re worth your own grace

It’s the one gift you and only you can give to yourself

This post is dedicated to my friend Gail who continues to teach me about giving myself grace.

No Contact

When Daughter’s Boyfriend is Dangerous

Thursday, June 28th, 2012

Saturday, February 19th, 2011

Domestic violence does not only happen to adults. Forty percent of girls age 14 to 17 report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend, and approximately one in five female high school students reports being physically and/or sexually abused by a dating partner.


Sunday, September 12th, 2010

There has been a story on the Internet this week about a 53 year old woman named Kelly who posted videos on You Tube documenting her devastation resulting from a breakup with her boyfriend.

She posted a total of 62 videos ranging from 1 to 7 minutes in length over a month’s time. As it turned out, Kelly and her boyfriend reunited.

I bring this up because it reminded me how truly gut-wrenching it is to end a relationship. Whether the relationship is good or destructive, the end is the emotional equivalent of being hit by a Mack truck.

In the one video I saw, Kelly looked and I’m sure felt like she had been completely totaled.

We all deal with loss differently but I can’t help but wonder what will happen if this relationship doesn’t make it.

Will she post You Tube videos again? How will the boyfriend react? Breakups are horrible to go through and sometimes people work through the difficulties and give it another go and sometimes they don’t.

When people grieve they work through the loss on their own as well as by talking it out with close friends and family, or through counseling. The aim is to eventually move toward acceptance. Life doesn’t seem normal for awhile. Life is often quieter in order to take enough time to digest it, reflect, and heal.

Maybe Kelly received therapeutic benefits by posting her grief on video. But if it was me,  I would wonder if the outcome would still have been the same without the video. Would the boyfriend have made the decision to come back?  After working through her grief, would Kelly decide she wanted him back?

It seems that Kelly became unraveled; she didn’t get herself back on track but rather, the boyfriend came to the rescue. Kelly may feel better in the short run but how about in the long run? Where does it leave her? Where does it leave him?