Posts Tagged ‘better’

So Stop Waiting

Saturday, October 8th, 2016

So stop waiting until you finish school,
until you go back to school,
until you lose ten pounds,
until you gain ten pounds,
until you have kids,
until your kids leave the house,
until you start work,
until you retire,
until you get married,
until you get divorced,
until Friday night,
until Sunday morning,
until you get a new car or home,
until your car or home is paid off,
until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter,
until you are off welfare,
until the first or fifteenth,
until your song comes on,
until you’ve had a drink,
until you’ve sobered up,
until you die,
until you are born again
to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy…

Author Unknown

Rejected

Monday, August 24th, 2015

There is nothing most of us hate more than being rejected.

Who likes that?

Who wants one person, a group of people, or any collective unit to ignore, walk away from, bully, or in some other way

discard them by:

Rejecting your ideas

Rejecting your presence

Rejecting YOU

The above is painful. In fact so painful it can mean we withdraw from people places–life as we know it–just

so we aren’t subjected to that kind of pain again.

However, when our worst fear is realized and we are rejected our body and mind will heal if we allow that healing

process to begin.

Beginning the process is key.

Move through the rejection as you would a bad storm.

Keep righting yourself even when monstrous winds come along that knock you off your feet.

Get back up.

Ride it out and maintain calm the best you can.

A rejection can end up giving you an experience in which you gain strength wisdom and the foothold you need to

move toward a better life.

No Contact

 

 

 

 

Destructive Construction

Sunday, August 2nd, 2015

We get into destructive relationships with other people places things

because we are looking for something outside ourselves that will make

us feel better about who we are. The construction of our being turns destructive.

We’ll feel better about who we are when we find what we need from within.

As we erect our solid foundation we are better equipped to contribute

to meaningful and rewarding relationships.

Other people add variety fun and emotional fulfillment.

They add spice and flavor.

You don’t need  people places and things who destroy what you’ve  constructed.

If you think you need what someone else has look deeper.

You have all you need.

We’re always going to be a work in progress.

We add onto take away from and fine tune our  state of being on a daily basis.

Keep the basic blueprint; it’s got you this far and won’t fail you.

No Contact

 

 

The Moment

Friday, January 23rd, 2015

The moment you realize you’ve had it and you are done

with things the way they are

you’ll know what you need to do to make things better.

You’ll need to risk and perhaps

even take a bold action.

Once you stand up to the thing you

fear and look it in the eye

you will breathe a sigh of relief

because you’ve made it to a pivotal moment

and at that point you will feel strength and

calm and belief that you are on your way.

No Contact

Do the Best You Can

Wednesday, February 20th, 2013

Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”
— Maya Angelou

Asking the Right Questions

Monday, August 20th, 2012

I’ve recently started a new business venture and have come to the realization that there were questions I wish I would have asked earlier in the process–like before I signed on the dotted line…

The problem wasn’t that I didn’t want to ask the right questions because I definitely did. The problem was I didn’t know enough to ask all the questions I should have asked. I was in learning mode and in that mode information is attacking right and left. The challenge is to survive the attack, regroup, and ultimately digest enough to understand some of it.

During times such as starting a new business, new job, new relationship, or pretty much anything new there is always a learning curve. In the beginning we retain bits and pieces of what we need to know but don’t fully grasp the big picture. We want to feel like we can step into any situation, make a quick assessment and then “just know” exactly how to react or respond.

It would be nice if life worked like that but it doesn’t. We can’t just know what to do. It takes exposure practice and time in order to meet with enough experiences within the new situation to understand what is needed. The primary means to get the information we need is to ask questions, lots of them.

By asking questions, getting answers, and asking more questions we eventually get to a point where we can fill in the blanks as they come up. Details  begin to surface and those details often lead us to the RIGHT questions.

If you’re standing at the edge of a cliff and your friend tells you to jump you’re not likely to do so unless you’re certain you’ll survive.

Real life situations are not always that black and white but rather shades of gray. The questions we don’t ask can cost us; the questions we do ask can save us.

If you don’t understand everything you need to know in a new situation maintain a steady demeanor. Ask questions even those you might think are ridiculous or not worth asking–those are the very questions you should ask.

No matter where you are or what you’re dealing with in your life right now I’d be willing to bet you’ve got questions–questions that are lingering right beneath the surface–you may not even be aware a question exists but it’s there.

Don’t keep questions to yourself. If in the instant you think of a question pertaining to a particular situation but can’t ask it write it down. Add to a list of questions as they come to mind.

If you’re in a new work situation and you don’t feel comfortable asking a question of an immediate supervisor ask a lead worker, assistant, or knowledgeable co-worker. If you don’t think the questions you have are leading to the right information just keep asking. Those early questions will lead to others as you gain more information.

If in a new relationship and things don’t add up or something is bothersome but you can’t put your finger on it ask questions. As you get to know the person better your questions will lead to those that give you more clarity. If you’re not comfortable enough to ask questions decide if the relationship is the best one for you.

 

 

Every Success

Saturday, May 28th, 2011

Every success is built on the ability to do better than good enough.

Getting Better

Saturday, October 9th, 2010

Good, better, best; never let it rest till your good is better and your better is best.   Unknown

If We All Took Naps

Tuesday, September 28th, 2010

Think what a better world it would be if we all, the whole world, had cookies and milk about three o’clock every afternoon and then lay down on our blankets for a nap.    — Barbara Jordan

Next Time

Thursday, April 22nd, 2010

Next time I’ll know better what is right for me.