Posts Tagged ‘avoid’

Seminar: Avoiding Destructive Relationships When Chronically ILL

Friday, August 31st, 2012

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Avoid Cheaters/Cheating in the Future

Wednesday, July 25th, 2012

Once you’ve been cheated on you want to avoid cheaters and cheating at all costs. Cheating leaves a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach and you want no part of it.

Years later the physical feeling may go away but you still remember the sense of loss and violation.

The only surefire way to avoid cheaters and cheating is to never get involved with anyone in the future. Stay away from relationships altogether. Keep to yourself and lock your door.

Right?

Well isolation is always an option but not likely one you want to give serious consideration to.

The best way to avoid cheaters and cheating is to be aware.

Be aware of how you feel when in relationships.

Be aware of your questions.

Be aware of early affection.

Be aware of situations or circumstances that don’t seem quite right.

Be aware when you are accepting excuses.

Be aware of no shows and then thinking you must have got the details wrong.

Ask the hard or uncomfortable questions. Don’t think your questions are silly, stupid, or none of your business. If you are in a relationship and you have a question, ask it. You know the difference between prying in a brand new relationship and asking for an explanation in an established one.

Pay attention.

Pay attention to what you see, how you feel, how they act, what they say, how they say it, what isn’t said. Observe their body language and your own. Follow your gut instincts.

Pay attention to sudden disappearing acts and then…reappearing acts.

As you get clear about your expectations for yourself and your relationships  paying attention will become second nature.

You will only be fooled if you choose to be. Sweet words and long embraces are in the moment. Genuine feelings sincerity and love are developed over time.