Posts Tagged ‘anger’

Steps to take When Going Through Divorce

Sunday, August 24th, 2014

There are six traits that will keep the odds in your favor as you go through divorce. Please read:

http://linkd.in/zP9Y5n

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Got Feelings? Express Them

Thursday, February 27th, 2014

From the time we were kids most of us were taught that it’s okay to express certain feelings but not others. We learned that if we express feelings that make others uncomfortable it puts us in an unfavorable light and that is to be avoided. We could feel grateful but not angry. It was okay to be confident but not scared. It was good to ask for advice from parents and other authority figures but not question them.

We also learned that there were times we should hide our feelings–even from ourselves. We might fear social contact but don’t own that fear and instead say we are bored. We might be hurt and feel rejected by another person but instead of communicating those feelings replace them with anger. If we’re in an abusive relationship we deny it and instead call it a successful relationship because we believe that we need that relationship in order to survive.

We get into trouble when we don’t acknowledge our true feelings. We can stuff what we feel down inside us for awhile but all we get for the continual denial is feelings that come out in other ways–backaches, headaches, ulcers or worse.

There is good reading material available that addresses the question of suppressed anger such as The Anger Trap by Les Carter or Healing the Shame by John Bradshaw. We have a choice. We can move through life as one of the walking wounded or we can take steps to heal our selves as we grow.

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On Being Angry

Monday, January 13th, 2014

Anyone can become angry – that is easy. But to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.

Aristotle

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Stress On the Brain

Saturday, September 21st, 2013

In the past I’ve written about relationship stress on the brain. Ongoing stress from any source causes overload on the brain. This link takes you to an article that focuses on brain stress topics:

How Your Brain Responds to Stress

Stress and Noise

Stress and Memory

Gender Responses to Stress

Impact of Stress Studies

http://bit.ly/bQhkqX

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You’ve Got Feelings–Express Them

Monday, June 25th, 2012

From the time we were kids most of us were taught that it’s okay to express certain feelings but not others. We learned that if we express feelings that make others uncomfortable it put us in an unfavorable light and that was to be avoided. We could feel grateful but not angry. It was okay to be confident but not scared. It was good to ask for advice from parents and other authority figures but not question them.

We also learned that there were times we should hide our feelings–even from ourselves. We might fear social contact but don’t own it and instead say we are bored. We might be hurt and feel rejected by another person but instead of communicating those feelings replace them with anger. If we’re in an abusive relationship we deny it and instead call it a successful relationship because we believe that we need that relationship in order to survive.

We get into trouble when we don’t acknowledge our true feelings. We can stuff them down inside us for awhile but all we get for the continual denial is feelings that come out in other ways–backaches, headaches, ulcers or worse.

There is good reading material available that addresses the question of surpressed anger such as The Anger Trap by Les Carter or Healing the Shame by John Bradshaw. We have a choice. We can move through life as one of the walking wounded or we can take steps to heal our selves as we grow.

Walking Away from Something…

Friday, June 8th, 2012

Anytime I am looking to somebody else as my source, I’m coming from scarcity. I am no longer trusting God or the universe, for my harvest. It’s reasonable for me to have expectations based on what somebody I trusted has committed to. And it’s natural for me to feel disappointed when that somebody doesn’t come through. But when I feel more than disappointment, when I also feel anger, it’s because I deviated from my truth. It’s because I compromised my truth to get what somebody else promised. Because when I am really following my truth, I will be at peace with the consequences–whatever they are. I can accept somebody else’s truth,but I must live with my own truth. And sometimes that means walking away from a relationship.

Jan Denise

Passing the Do You Care test

Sunday, June 3rd, 2012

http://bit.ly/JNeduc

Mask of Anger

Wednesday, March 7th, 2012

http://linkd.in/wfnbVM

NYE the Most Dangerous Night of the Year

Saturday, December 31st, 2011

Please read the following:

http://bit.ly/v90HiD

Sunday, August 21st, 2011

Man should forget his anger before he lies down to sleep.  Mahatma Ghandi