Posts Tagged ‘alone’

Find Peace Within

Sunday, January 22nd, 2017

There are times when life as we know it seems to crumble all around us. During these times we are searching, fearing, and not really knowing what the right thing to do is. Take a deep breath let it out and
Find peace within.

When you feel others don’t understand misunderstand or seem altogether indifferent toward you, remember the value you have and
Find peace within.

If you have a project you know needs to get done but you are too tired or too anxious or you know you don’t have it in you to give it what it needs right now don’t beat yourself up but instead take a break as it will still be around later and
Find peace within.

When you find yourself way too critical of the way you look, your intelligence, your abilities, or in some other way feel inadequate and don’t measure up, give yourself a long strong hug, accept the gifts you bring to the table and
Find peace within.

When you fear the worst will happen no matter what that worst is, avoid panic, seek counsel, take a deep breath, let it out, pull together all the strength you can muster and
Find peace within.

When you are not invited
When you are turned down
When you are left alone
When you are forgotten
Or when you are ignored

Remember that you have a powerful presence deep within yourself. There is great peace within you and you alone create it. No one can take that from you.

Take pride in you as you are special despite whatever circumstances you face and that surround you.

Remember the peace that lies within you. It is the most precious gift you can give
to you.

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On a Pumpkin

Friday, October 7th, 2016

I would rather sit on a pumpkin, and have it all to myself, than be crowded on a velvet cushion.     Henry David Thoreau

Alone for the Holidays

Sunday, December 20th, 2015

Alone for the holidays is doable and in some cases a good alternative.Going through a divorce, kids with the ex, no family around, put a positive spin on this opportunity to take care of yourself.

The biggest battle we face this time of year is with the media.
Newspapers, radio, tv, internet…the holidays are pretty hard to miss.

The media works to convince us that alone is downright ridiculous during the holidays and is in no way a desirable alternative.

But that’s not true.

If your situation is one in which it is likely that you will spend time alone you can wallow in pity or pull yourself up by your bootstraps and enjoy the time you have to yourself.

It’s a matter of perspective.

If you’re a TV watcher and don’t want to stop watching, turn down the sound when the Hallmark moments come on.

Those commercials can pluck away at your heartstrings and cause you to feel miserable. Turn them off or silence them.

A great alternative is Netflix or dvd’s.

If possible go out and see the lights. You might think this is counterproductive but it’s actually fun and gets you up and doing something. But if it’s not your cup of tea…

Make a meal, a good one but maybe not the Christmas type. Use your imagination.

Take a trip, nearby or distant.

Take a luxurious bubble bath.

Give yourself a manicure.

Watch non holiday movies or holiday movies that are hilarious such as Christmas Vacation.

I’ve spent holidays alone and made a point of planning ahead as to how I was going to treat myself and looked forward to it.

We have the power to make or break each day we’re given no matter when it is. This time of year is no exception. No Contact

Sitting Ducks

Monday, September 7th, 2015

If you’re a sitting duck you might know it

but you might not.

If you don’t know it hopefully someone else out

there is advocating for you or soon will be.

You’re vulnerable, out in the open, and fairly helpless

in your current position.

Sitting ducks need advocates.

Sitting ducks need to pay attention.

Lack of financial support, food, housing, and a support

network can make you a sitting duck.

Being in relationships with unavailable people can do

it to you also.

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Reprogram Self Talk

Tuesday, September 17th, 2013

If you believe life will not get better and that you do not have what it takes to move forward successfully in relationships, career, or in any other way it’s time to reprogram your self talk.

Being in destructive relationships includes the one you’re in with yourself. When you have been put down, badgered, belittled, ignored, or physically, emotionally, mentally, or sexually abused, it is easy to believe that you cannot do anything right or are not as good as others.

It is easy to think this way because at some point in your life or maybe throughout life you have listened to others who have told you that you are some how defective or are missing something and because of this will always  fail.

If whatever you believe and/or whatever recording you play over and over in your head is negative that noise can be deafening.  Silence the noise by playing a new recording–one that is positive uplifting and accurate. Memorize this recording and play it loud. Write it out and stick it to a wall where you will see it every day. So for instance, if the recording you play is: I’m a loser and will never ever make it in life; change it to: I am smart and strong and I will have a great life!

Start playing the new recording today. Play it over and over until you believe it. When the old negative recording starts to creep back into your thoughts focus on drowning it out with the new vibrant positive one.

Instead of being your own worst enemy concentrate on being your best friend. Don’t let ghosts from the past and naysayers in the present have power over the way you view yourself!

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Self Defense

Thursday, February 16th, 2012

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Wednesday, December 1st, 2010

Sometimes you have to stand alone to prove that you can still stand.

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