Archive for the ‘Divorce’ Category

Can Your Relationship Stand the Test of Time

Monday, April 8th, 2013

There are many issues that can drain the life out of a relationship but there are a some that can be real deal breakers. Take a look:

1. Lack of Communication–In this day and age it probably seems improbable that a couple would have trouble staying in communication since there are so many options available. Some people may feel it’s too easy to communicate and thus feel pressured to communicate with their partner all day long.

Yet couples who don’t talk about plans, feelings, work, and dreams are headed for disaster. It’s not necessary to be in contact throughout the day but taking time at the end of the day to talk about your work challenges, funny stories, what the kids did at school, and plans for the weekend can make all the difference in the world.

2. No Common Interests–Think about and then jot down common interests you have with your partner. If you draw a blank after kids, work, house, and friends you might want to consider a hobby or activity you would both like to share. There is no substitute for quality time together.

3. Cheating on a Partner–Why does this happen in the first place? Maybe the woman stays home all day caring for the kids and feels that she needs something more in her life. Or, maybe the man sees his wife in sweats and a t-shirt daily yet sees women at work dressed to the nines. He resents his wife not looking her best and strays.

Both partners need to commit to the relationship. There will always be temptations but the couple who shares time together and dresses up for each other on a regular basis nurtures the relationship by letting each other know that the relationship is a priority and worth putting out extra effort for. Besides, it can’t help but spice things up.

4. Indifference–the silent deadly killer of relationships. It happens more often than you might think. When one partner is disagreeable or lacks interest in anything the other partner suggests, it is a sign that all is not well. Open communication is the key. If one partner is silent while the other is not it will be impossible to grow the connection for the long haul. Sometimes life gets busy and couples feel it isn’t worth the extra effort to open up and share not only the good but the other stuff that gets put on the back burner. Addressing the back burner topics sooner rather than later is the better course of action to take.

Successful relationships don’t just happen. They are grown over time. Place your relationship in the forefront, where it belongs.

Domestic Violence Ends Tragically in San Diego

Tuesday, October 9th, 2012

Violence is the reason stated for one out of five divorces. If there is ever a time when it is better to be safe than sorry it would be when breaking off a relationship. If you are thinking of leaving a relationship proceed with caution.

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Delivering Bad News

Monday, September 10th, 2012

Delivering bad news is never something we can’t wait to do and I don’t mean news re: the death of a loved one or re: illness. The type of bad news I’m referring to is the type where people lose the opportunity to benefit or gain in some way. This might be the loss of a new job, project, manager, client. It might be the loss of a promotion, money gifts, awards, government benefits, tenancy, property or another tangible. It might also be the loss of a relationship.

It’s hard to be the one whether professionally or personally who tells another person they’re not going to get something they want or that you no longer want the other person in your life. Being on the receiving end of this type of news can be devastating but what is worse is not getting the news first hand from the person who should be responsible for giving it.

Say you’re in a relationship and your partner just disappears. You receive no warning, no goodbye no nice knowing you, they’re just gone. You wonder and maybe imagine all sorts of things happened. You look for them or make countless phone calls but in the end you’re left with more than a few unknowns. (more…)

A Crisis as the Catalyst for Change

Saturday, September 8th, 2012

This is a very good blog post written by a woman who was forced to make changes in her life. Her divorce was the catalyst for change. Her story is inspiring and her advice is right on target.



Monday, July 23rd, 2012

Cheaters are out there in full force. They may cheat out of desperation or feel they must cheat because not to takes too much time. Sometimes people cheat because they can’t help themselves. Whatever the reason, cheating will eventually catch up with them and when it does lives may be shattered and/or relationships broken beyond repair.

If you are involved with a cheater whether through business or in a personal relationship there is one of three ways you’ll discover the wrongdoing. They will either tell you to your face , you will discover it on your own, or someone else will step forward.

Once you know, your job is to decide what you are going to do about it.

For some the decision is easy–they get out. Maybe they’ve been suspicious for awhile and had enough time to process their decision.

Others are blindsided. They didn’t see it coming so aren’t immediately sure what their course of action will be. Only when they get their bearings do they decide what they will do.

Some people discover the cheating but choose to stay involved. This decision can be made because they choose to ignore the violation, feel they have too much invested emotionally and/or financially to leave or because they face the cheating head on and choose to work through the issues.

Whatever route you take one thing is for sure–cheating will change your life. Even when people choose to ignore cheating it takes energy to hold that violation deep inside. Don’t kid yourself, there won’t be too many days when you don’t wonder if and when it will happen again.

Next time:  You and the Cheater


High Price to Pay

Thursday, May 3rd, 2012

As the number of foreclosures have increased so have the number of divorces. Are these statistics related?

Perfect Partners?

Saturday, March 17th, 2012

How do you see your partner?

Do you view your partner as perfect?

Do you see your partner as perfect for you?

The way you view your relationship makes a big difference in the health and vitality of the relationship.

Detoxing from Divorce

Thursday, March 8th, 2012

Mask of Anger

Wednesday, March 7th, 2012

Divorce Mediation

Tuesday, February 28th, 2012

Here is a video about divorce Mediation: