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FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real

Wednesday, January 3rd, 2018

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When we fear something we believe with all our might that our fear is real.

We absolutely and positively believe that our fear is stopping us from doing stupid, ridiculous, and even dangerous things.

And sometimes it is true that we can have fear about things that we are wise to be fearful of but many things we are scared of are not really things we should be afraid of.

So what is it about fear that puts this stranglehold on us?

We fear that something terrible is going to happen to us if we do this one thing.

For me, making customer service calls to my past customers, is something I dread.

I believe that by calling my past customers and asking them how they like the window treatments I sold them that they will call me names, swear at me, or hang up.

I also think that when I ask these same customers if they have received compliments in regards to the window treatments I sold them that they will accuse me of trying to get referrals from them and refuse to give them to me.

And if they did accuse me of trying to get referrals from them the truth is I do want to encourage them to help me speak to other who people I may be able to help because I love what I do and I sincerely believe I can help their friends and family.

And even if my past customers call me names, swear at me or hang up on me, I will survive. None of those things will cause me bodily harm or injure me in any way.

And there is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with me calling my past customers, asking them how they are doing, how the window treatments are working, and if they have received compliments.

Yet I believe what I am doing by calling my customers is somehow wrong or bad and I will come up with any excuse to avoid making those calls.

I would go so far as to say that I could see me losing my business just because I am afraid of making those calls.

So I’ve decided that in order to prove to myself that I can get past my blocks and make the dreaded calls to my past customers I am going to aim to make 50 calls by the end of this month. If I make 5 calls a day it is totally doable for me to make 50 calls in 10 days. So I will update you at the end of this month.

What do you fear? What is your block? Is it a real genuine fear or is it False Evidence Appearing Real?

Luck and Banking On It

Wednesday, August 9th, 2017

No ContactLuck? I don’t know anything about luck. I’ve never banked on it and I’m afraid of people who do. Luck to me is something else: Hard work – and realizing what is opportunity and what isn’t.

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Leaving things Undone

Wednesday, March 1st, 2017

I have a terrible time leaving things undone! I am learning to get a grip on walking away from what is not finished but it’s definitely a process.

You and I must leave things undone at the end of the day for peace and sanity.

Unless there is a specific deadline for a particular project it is our duty to ourselves and the significant people in our lives to walk away from the work.

The work will ALWAYS be there tomorrow!

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Locked Up or Locked Out?

Sunday, February 26th, 2017

No Contact Warning, if you are offended by talk of breastfeeding you may want to move past the first few paragraphs.

Have you ever been locked up or locked out?

The other day I had a window treatment consultation with a customer who is a lactation consultant and it got it me to thinking of the experience I’d had with my last son who nursed for an extended period of time.
For the most part it was a great breastfeeding experience but there was a point when I got a breast infection which was a truly painful experience.

There was not much I could do to relieve the pain–my son’s nursing provided some relief but it wasn’t enough and I was miserable. I felt locked up. I didn’t have the right key to break the stronghold the infection had on me and the only way to get long lasting relief was to take an antibiotic. Once I got on the medication I found relief and ceased the locked up feeling I’d had.

Being locked up in the case of a breast infection is painful but there are other ways we get locked up or locked out, for instance:

Have you ever had a case of the nerves to the point where your words are locked up? I mean you may get some croaking verbalization to come out but it is truly difficult and silence is a better alternative. I had this happen once in an interview situation and no amount of water or deep breathing brought relief. I somehow croaked my way through but it was rough….

Have you ever been locked out of your car house or apartment? Locked out of your place of business or unable to open a combination lock?

Last week I couldn’t get my garage door to open. I entered the code, no luck, nothing. The back gate lock wouldn’t budge due to very cold conditions and swelling of the wood. I couldn’t get the front door to open because the deadbolt has a mind of it’s own and at that particular time no amount of leaning in or pulling out to get it to open would work.

Then out of the blue, the garage door opened on it’s own–must have been a radio frequency issue–but I was finally able to get inside.

Being closed out is tough and when it happens it affects us mightily. We can be locked out of jobs, promotions, all sorts of opportunities because there is something we need and don’t have or some intangible that we are missing. In the case of an entry to a house, vehicle, gate, etc we can get the right key or code and then relief is ours.

In the case of a job, promotion, or desired opportunity, being locked out could last awhile.

If it’s possible to get what we need like a license, certification, award, etc. we know what we need to do.

But it may be that this one thing we need to unlock our locked out conditions may not come to us.

Alexander Graham Bell said it best:

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us.”

Feeling locked up whether it be breastfeeding, your words, incarceration, or another way, relief comes through a process–whatever that may be…

If you are locked out, move forward, find a way to appreciate the door standing in front of you that is open.

Given the Key

Friday, January 13th, 2017

I would wager that billions of dollars are spent each year to get key information to finally get us over the hump and bring us the things we desire to reach our goals and/or bring us prosperity. However, when given the key information we want what is said to us is never ever as significant as what we do!

The true reward comes in our journey.

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What Are You Worth?

Monday, January 9th, 2017

What are you worth?

What are your time and efforts worth?

How proud are you of the work you do?

How valued do you believe you are?

How hard do you work for your employer?

How hard do you work for yourself?

Do you believe that you put your whole self in to the work you are paid to do?

If you don’t, why not?

Since when is a halfbaked effort worthy of recognition or promotion?

Think about how much effort you put in to what you do.

If you’re more of a talker than a doer realize that talk will only get you so far.

Hard work is necessary even mandatory to get you where you want to be.

Nothing less will do.

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Sunday, October 16th, 2016

If you’ve been caught in a landslide you may find yourself awake at 3am trying to find a way out of your predicament.

Landslides are slippery and when sliding we don’t always think clearly.

Panic often comes along for the ride when you’re sliding out of control.

Take a deep breath and prepare for a rough landing but don’t let panic dictate the outcome.

Keep your wits about you.

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The Light Fantastic

Friday, September 9th, 2016

“Inside every sane person there’s a madman struggling to get out,” said the shopkeeper. “That’s what I’ve always thought. No one goes made quicker than a totally sane person.”

Terry Pratchett, The Light Fantastic

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Where You Should Be & Door Knocking

Sunday, August 28th, 2016

No ContactHave you ever wondered if where you are is where you should be?

I mean, we can wonder about everything we do and the decisions we make as it relates to us and the truth is we’ll probably never know for sure if we’ve got it all exactly right. So if we weren’t where we are now, where else would we be? What would we do? Who would be in our lives? What would life look like?

We all have times when we question our direction. Yet if we are spiritual (and that is certainly different for everyone) have faith in that spirituality and are moving forward by living life in a way we feel good about, we’re most definitely on a positive path.

If I were homeless, with no means of support, no friends or family near by—I would have serious doubts about whether or not I was in the right place. In fact I’d make a point of doing whatever I could to change my situation by coming up with a plan and working on it daily.

There have been times in my life when I’ve faced setbacks and have struggled economically, emotionally, and spiritually. Each time has been frustrating primarily because I didn’t know for sure if the smart move was to stay on the current path or choose a different one.

Sometimes we are fearful or uncertain no matter what we do so the goal becomes to move forward daily day by gathering information setting goals and eventually getting our nerve up to knock on a few doors. We might get to the first one and it slams shut. That’s okay, we just try another one. If we get the same result we continue to try again and again and again.

Some decide it’s too discouraging so abandon knocking on any more doors. Others keep trudging on. Not giving up is the American way, right? Sure staying the course despite rejection builds character yet at some point it’s a good idea to step back and consider whether it’s possible we’re trying to open the wrong doors. (more…)

Overlooked and Undervalued

Sunday, June 12th, 2016

Have there been times in your life when you’ve felt overlooked and undervalued?

Have you stood by and watched flashier more outspoken types get kudos early on? Have heart and don’t let this throw you off track. Flashier types may initially be recognized for their efforts however the attention they initially receive often falls by the wayside when they tend not to deliver as promised.

Charm flash and the ability to talk a good talk will only go so far. There are qualities which although not dazzling at onset pay dividends over time.

Determination, doggedness, consistency, hard work, and sincerity are valued.

There are those who don’t initially seem talented, though they are and don’t readily toot their own horn because they are absorbing, studying, and figuring out what needs to be done. Quieter more focused workers do have what it takes though it takes them time to gain confidence and a certain level of comfort with their skills.

If you are determined, dedicated, patient and willing to give your all you have what it takes to get where you want to go.

Stop looking over your shoulder at the flash in the pan. Maintain your focus and on the tasks at hand. Don’t be afraid to assert yourself so that you can be recognized when it counts. If you pay too much attention to the accomplishments and recognition of others it takes you away from what’s happening with you.

You will need to develop a certain level of comfort with asserting your views and opinions. Be brave.

Be respectful to those you’d rather not speak to. This is not being fake it is being courageous and no one can honestly overlook a brave respectful and courageous person.

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