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Love & Devotion to Self

Saturday, April 14th, 2018

No ContactDevotion to self is pretty easy when things are going well. Being present with love & devotion to self when stressed is something entirely different.

In my line of work I spend most of my time being out in the customer’s home. For the most part I can tell myself I’m going to have a great day and keep that self talk going. I need to do this because sales is a tough job and can get discouraging because there are multiple challenges and rejection to face on a regular basis. I know that’s part of the job and I accept it.

However

There are times when no amount of self talk is going to save me. When I’m hungry and tired and in a customer’s home with another hour or so to go it can be hard to cope.

But the one thing that drives me nuts is when I can’t find a pen!!

I have lots of pens–but due to the hectic nature of the work, pens disappear. This is a problem when it comes to taking measurements and writing up invoices. A few weeks back I couldn’t find a pen so I ended up borrowing one from the customer wrote out the invoice and finished the consult.

As challenges go not having a pen is not a gigantic one yet it can be unnerving in a sales situation because having a pen is important. In the moment my head scolds me telling me how unprofessional it makes me look not to have a pen. On the other hand I tell myself it makes me look human so I step back, take a deep breath and give myself some grace.

So the point to this is:

I really concentrated on not beating myself up over not having a pen but instead with determination found an old zipper pouch and stashed quite a few pens in it. I also ended up getting a better bag–one with more storage compartments.

When things don’t go exactly like you would like them to but you’ve got your heart into what you do, know that it is enough. In fact, you’re likely doing an amazing job at what you do but fail to see how spectacular you really are.

The goal isn’t to be perfect but to be perfectly fine with yourself.

If we don’t challenge ourselves to love us by taking a stand for who we are and what we do in life–deep down we will know it.

Being devoted to self is the key to living life the way we are meant to live it in all aspects of life. Love who you are always. Think thoughts that allow positive forces to step into your consciousness. Really let the positive thoughts rule in your life. Kick the thoughts that don’t serve you to the curb and keep them there. One method I’ve found that works is picking up an imaginary shovel full of dirt and burying pesky negativity from the past. Once it’s buried it’s gone. If it comes back I get the shovel out again.

The biggest challenge we face is loving ourselves. We don’t have to do life perfectly we just need to live life and love ourselves unconditionally.

Ask for What You Want

Sunday, April 1st, 2018

Like everyone else, there have been times when I’ve felt sorry for myself because I don’t have what I want. But when I’m honest with myself, really honest, I realize that if I don’t have what I want it’s because I don’t ask for it.

For all of us, the way to get what we truly want in life is not all that difficult. But on the other hand we might not get what we want as quickly as we would hope to get it.

When we are straightforward and ask for what we want we might get it and then again we might not. Yet even if we don’t we will learn something in the process. We will find out what we need to do to give us the best opportunity next time around. And if we want whatever it is we want badly enough, there will be a NEXT time because we are centered and focused on providing ourselves with the best opportunities life has to offer.

There really is no need to set ourselves up scheme or plot.

There is a need however to be purposeful in the way we live our lives and really know with every fiber of our being what it is we truly want because the law of life is that we don’t just fall into the right circumstances and situations.

We prepare ourselves to get there.

We’ve got to have a map because that map will lead us to our destination.

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FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real

Wednesday, January 3rd, 2018

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When we fear something we believe with all our might that our fear is real.

We absolutely and positively believe that our fear is stopping us from doing stupid, ridiculous, and even dangerous things.

And sometimes it is true that we can have fear about things that we are wise to be fearful of but many things we are scared of are not really things we should be afraid of.

So what is it about fear that puts this stranglehold on us?

We fear that something terrible is going to happen to us if we do this one thing.

For me, making customer service calls to my past customers, is something I dread.

I believe that by calling my past customers and asking them how they like the window treatments I sold them that they will call me names, swear at me, or hang up.

I also think that when I ask these same customers if they have received compliments in regards to the window treatments I sold them that they will accuse me of trying to get referrals from them and refuse to give them to me.

And if they did accuse me of trying to get referrals from them the truth is I do want to encourage them to help me speak to other who people I may be able to help because I love what I do and I sincerely believe I can help their friends and family.

And even if my past customers call me names, swear at me or hang up on me, I will survive. None of those things will cause me bodily harm or injure me in any way.

And there is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with me calling my past customers, asking them how they are doing, how the window treatments are working, and if they have received compliments.

Yet I believe what I am doing by calling my customers is somehow wrong or bad and I will come up with any excuse to avoid making those calls.

I would go so far as to say that I could see me losing my business just because I am afraid of making those calls.

So I’ve decided that in order to prove to myself that I can get past my blocks and make the dreaded calls to my past customers I am going to aim to make 50 calls by the end of this month. If I make 5 calls a day it is totally doable for me to make 50 calls in 10 days. So I will update you at the end of this month.

What do you fear? What is your block? Is it a real genuine fear or is it False Evidence Appearing Real?

Luck and Banking On It

Wednesday, August 9th, 2017

No ContactLuck? I don’t know anything about luck. I’ve never banked on it and I’m afraid of people who do. Luck to me is something else: Hard work – and realizing what is opportunity and what isn’t.

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Leaving things Undone

Wednesday, March 1st, 2017

I have a terrible time leaving things undone! I am learning to get a grip on walking away from what is not finished but it’s definitely a process.

You and I must leave things undone at the end of the day for peace and sanity.

Unless there is a specific deadline for a particular project it is our duty to ourselves and the significant people in our lives to walk away from the work.

The work will ALWAYS be there tomorrow!

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Locked Up or Locked Out?

Sunday, February 26th, 2017

No Contact Warning, if you are offended by talk of breastfeeding you may want to move past the first few paragraphs.

Have you ever been locked up or locked out?

The other day I had a window treatment consultation with a customer who is a lactation consultant and it got it me to thinking of the experience I’d had with my last son who nursed for an extended period of time.
For the most part it was a great breastfeeding experience but there was a point when I got a breast infection which was a truly painful experience.

There was not much I could do to relieve the pain–my son’s nursing provided some relief but it wasn’t enough and I was miserable. I felt locked up. I didn’t have the right key to break the stronghold the infection had on me and the only way to get long lasting relief was to take an antibiotic. Once I got on the medication I found relief and ceased the locked up feeling I’d had.

Being locked up in the case of a breast infection is painful but there are other ways we get locked up or locked out, for instance:

Have you ever had a case of the nerves to the point where your words are locked up? I mean you may get some croaking verbalization to come out but it is truly difficult and silence is a better alternative. I had this happen once in an interview situation and no amount of water or deep breathing brought relief. I somehow croaked my way through but it was rough….

Have you ever been locked out of your car house or apartment? Locked out of your place of business or unable to open a combination lock?

Last week I couldn’t get my garage door to open. I entered the code, no luck, nothing. The back gate lock wouldn’t budge due to very cold conditions and swelling of the wood. I couldn’t get the front door to open because the deadbolt has a mind of it’s own and at that particular time no amount of leaning in or pulling out to get it to open would work.

Then out of the blue, the garage door opened on it’s own–must have been a radio frequency issue–but I was finally able to get inside.

Being closed out is tough and when it happens it affects us mightily. We can be locked out of jobs, promotions, all sorts of opportunities because there is something we need and don’t have or some intangible that we are missing. In the case of an entry to a house, vehicle, gate, etc we can get the right key or code and then relief is ours.

In the case of a job, promotion, or desired opportunity, being locked out could last awhile.

If it’s possible to get what we need like a license, certification, award, etc. we know what we need to do.

But it may be that this one thing we need to unlock our locked out conditions may not come to us.

Alexander Graham Bell said it best:

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us.”

Feeling locked up whether it be breastfeeding, your words, incarceration, or another way, relief comes through a process–whatever that may be…

If you are locked out, move forward, find a way to appreciate the door standing in front of you that is open.

Given the Key

Friday, January 13th, 2017

I would wager that billions of dollars are spent each year to get key information to finally get us over the hump and bring us the things we desire to reach our goals and/or bring us prosperity. However, when given the key information we want what is said to us is never ever as significant as what we do!

The true reward comes in our journey.

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What Are You Worth?

Monday, January 9th, 2017

What are you worth?

What are your time and efforts worth?

How proud are you of the work you do?

How valued do you believe you are?

How hard do you work for your employer?

How hard do you work for yourself?

Do you believe that you put your whole self in to the work you are paid to do?

If you don’t, why not?

Since when is a halfbaked effort worthy of recognition or promotion?

Think about how much effort you put in to what you do.

If you’re more of a talker than a doer realize that talk will only get you so far.

Hard work is necessary even mandatory to get you where you want to be.

Nothing less will do.

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Landslide

Sunday, October 16th, 2016

If you’ve been caught in a landslide you may find yourself awake at 3am trying to find a way out of your predicament.

Landslides are slippery and when sliding we don’t always think clearly.

Panic often comes along for the ride when you’re sliding out of control.

Take a deep breath and prepare for a rough landing but don’t let panic dictate the outcome.

Keep your wits about you.

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The Light Fantastic

Friday, September 9th, 2016

“Inside every sane person there’s a madman struggling to get out,” said the shopkeeper. “That’s what I’ve always thought. No one goes made quicker than a totally sane person.”

Terry Pratchett, The Light Fantastic

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